When Your Child Disappoints You

You find out that you’re expecting. You’re excited because you have all these ideas and plans for your child. The whole “born into sin” becomes a myth.  Soon they start hurting your feelings, disobeying you, and letting you down.  Over and over again, you experience this type of pain for the ones you’ll lay your life down for.  

At times, my children disappoint me beyond anything I could ever imagine. It’s hurtful to get an earful of who your child is when they are away from you, especially the one(s) you consider perfect. Eventually, you will have to accept the truth, pull yourself together and make the necessary changes.

You will learn that you can't dangle your children as a pawn or even teach them that it's healthy to compete with their peers. It's a set up for failure. I am learning to see my children for exactly who they are, so that when they do make a mistake I am not so hard on them that I can't love them through it.

Discipline is needed! Discipline requires strength, love and courage. We as parents are our children’s light at the end of the tunnel. Pray, discipline, love and repeat! Otherwise, we’re setting them up for failure.

I will not be a willing party to their death. #ImStillLearning

Weekend and being Daddy's girl...

I love the weekends with my kids.  My Zoe-Grace is especially special! This weekend we took them to downtown St. Pete to enjoy the art and to fly kites!

She loves the outside…. Being free! 

Full of life! Full of energy! Full of joy!

No just a pretty face! Has to prove she can hang with the boys! 

Full of life! Full of energy! Full of joy!

Here she is making music…

As these ladies dance to Zoe-Grace’s beat! 

We Love Snack Time!

How many of you Moms find it very hard to get your kiddies to eat well, drink the right thing and actually "like" it?  I know that in my home it has always been a struggle.  I'm one of those moms who bribes my two little ones into eating healthy only to feed them something that contradicts them eating right in the first place. HA!

So I during lunch, I asked Zuri and Zoe-Grace if they would like to have milk as their choice of drink.  They both looked at me and replied "MILK?" ZG immediately said "NO Mommy, I want juice..." I asked her to try the milk first, not even tasting it myself! I somehow convinced them that it was sooo yummy in my tummy.  Zuri, my little dare baby tried it first.  He loved it!

ZG stared at him for a long while, while he drank his milk.  

Horizon Organic's Vanilla flavored low-fat milk is so good.

Horizon Organic's Vanilla flavored low-fat milk is so good. We received it in our Boxed order this week. Never had it before, but so glad we did!

This is now our go to snack drink. It's filling and keeps them out of the kitchen.

You Are My Sunshine City - St. Pete

We live across the bridge in the burbs now, but we still love Da Burg! St. Petersburg, FL, our sunshine city! Every September, the city hosts SPF, a month-long festival showcasing the arts, museums and attractions. This year kicked off with the Shine On St. Pete Mural Festival. Here are some pictures from our exploring these works of art!

STEM Academy

Last week, we reached a small milestone with Zaedrin.  Every other Saturday for the last 3 months, Zaedrin participated in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) Academy. 

The intent of this program is to increase students' exposure to STEM and encourage them to enroll in accelerated STEM courses as they progress through middle and high school. There were only 40 seats available so we made sure we submitted his application as soon as we could. Upon submission, we heard back immediately he was accepted to attend. For 6 Saturdays over the last three months, Zaedrin and other students learned about various things such as programming and robotics. We hope his participation further piqued his interest in technology and that he will pursue a career in a technology-related field.

Here, enjoy a video from Pinellas County Schools on its STEM programs as well as some photos from today's awards ceremony at the STEM Academy.

Such a great turn out with the support of parents and teachers.

During the event, we toured PTEC and was introduced to a ton of tuition free dual enrollment programs.  It was very informative finding out all the different programs they offered.  Zaedrin's interests are in engineering.  His plan is to build computers, aircraft or other automotive machines.

We are very proud of this young man, for stepping out into what his true desire is.  This is just the beginning of something of a life long passion. 

Freebie Friday! Women's Jennifer Pumps - Mossimo

Hey guys! Happy Friday!  

It's been a while since my last giveaway. I felt compelled to do "SOMETHING".  Over the next several of months I will be giving away new, like new, and barely used items. I will post a "Freebie Friday" once a month. 

So today I want to give away Women's Jennifer Pumps - Mossimo in "blush" color, size 8.5. This months freebie came from the realization that I was never going to wear these shoes because of a few reasons. 1). I have the same pair in black and they literally KILL my feet. 2) I could never find anything to wear with them. and 3) The heel is way to high for my taste.  Don't get me wrong, these babyies are beautiful, I just feel that they would benefit someone else.

Look girl, there is NOTHING like FREE! Even if this isn't your size, enter at a chance to win and bless someone else who can fit them.


Are you a giver? If so, let's connect to do some great things! 

For the sake of competing!!

I ran into a lady at the bank who was talking to another lady about jealousy and competition.  Her words “People who have to be seen, often find themselves in competition with someone else.  And what does competition stem from? Jealousy.”  At the time I had my phone to my ear talking with my mom. All I could do was shake my head.  Yes.  YES!! She spoke a word…

We all feel that our children are precious.  And if you have more than one child, you have to teach them how to be loving, sympathetic, empathetic, and to not complete with each other.  Yes, folks, that has to be taught!  It’s not something they will just start doing.  The best way to show and teach this is by displaying that type of behavior with others.

So, for the sake of competing, when does it start and at what point does it end? 
Months back, I looked at a certain behavior that I was displaying.  At the moment of me noticing my own behavior, I was so outdone. SICK!!  I had had enough of it.  I shut down my Facebook and refocused my life to how I was raised.  In the process, I started running into people who didn’t share or hold the same values as my husband and I.  The strides we’ve taken has done wonders for us and our kids. I am teaching my kids that competing with others is a losing battle.  No one wins!!

My cousins and I growing up was very close. So close, we welcomed each other’s differences.  No judgement, no fighting, no “one-upping” each other.  None of that! We were always truly genuinely happy for one another.
Now more than ever, I see children competing with one another.  Who has the better shoes, clothes, grades, birthday’s, etc.  The ignorance of it all had me thinking, “Where do they get that from?”


Parents who were once children. Growing up very insecure and needy, grow up to be very insecure and needy adults.  We dish that same insecurity off on our children who are so ignorant not to know any better. What do we value the most?

So when and how do we teach them self-worth? 
I know for me; I’ve taken a stand with my children. I am in a season where I have to limit what I say, do and who I interact with. If I’m not careful, I find myself with that same “competitive” spirit.  For God’s sake, I’m an adult.  I am happily married and in love.  I live a great life and so many others… no one can compete with me if I don’t give them the chance to.  

If you find yourself in competition with someone, ask yourself this "Who am I competing with and why?" 

Being a Christian in name only?

A few weeks ago, the kids and I went to Publix to purchase a few things for the house. As we walked around we saw people in passing whom we didn't know.  That's pretty normal walking around in a grocery store, right? This particular day, we saw a woman and her son.
The woman didn't look any different from any other mom and her son was around 15 or 16 years old.  Not thinking too much about them, we checked out and walked to our car.  
As we proceeded outside, we noticed a car parked next to ours.  The hood was lifted up and there were people outside standing around and talking.  One lady was actually leaning on our car. As we came closer, she looked towards us and smiled.  She said "Don't worry, I'm not going to steal your car.  I just so happened to be leaning because we can't figure out what's wrong with her (pointing to the car owner) car." 

As it turns out, the owner was the same lady we saw earlier with her teenage son. I smiled and asked if they needed any help, if they could get the car to start, and if they had jumper cables.  They said they were waiting to see if anyone would come help and that they had jumper cables but the cables wouldn't jump start her car.  
So I asked, if they had heavy duty cables.  She said, "Cables are cables, right?"   My facial expression was a clear "NO" <LOL> 

That's when it happened, that's when the Lord spoke to me.  He told me to put the kids in the car, open the trunk and put the groceries inside.  He then told me to lift up the small compartment in the back of the trunk area.  I lifted it and there were heavy duty jumper cables. The cables had sat in that area since January 2014, when purchased our new car. These are the same cables I thought we got rid of some time ago. (Out of sight, out of mind They were old, worn down and used. I haven't seen or used them in two years.)

I pulled them out and handed them to the lady that was leaning on my car.  They connected their two cars and the car finally started.  
The lady who was leaning against my car is now jumping and waving her hands, saying "Thank you Jesus! The car is finally started!" The owner continued to sit in the car. The car owner’s son, the teenage boy, finally came back to our car and gave me the jumper cables.  As he was walking away, God told me to give the cables back to him.  I said "Hey, tell your Mom she can have them."  He said "Are you sure?"  I said "Yes, I have no need for them.  Tell your Mom she can have them if she wants them."  

He then took the cables to his mom.  I got into the car and started it ready to back out.  Next thing I know, the car owner was standing on my driver side.  I put the car back into park and got out.  She was crying.  She then hugged me so tight, and whispered in my ear "Thank you so much! I had a really bad day.  I really needed this."  I hugged her back just as tight and said "God is always there right when you need Him." She cried more... As she walked away she looked at me and said "Thank you" again.  She went and sat back down in her running car wiping her tears. 

When we pulled off it hit me that my kids were still in the car.  With all that was going on, they watched their mom and how she was able to be a blessing to someone else.  It wasn't the first time but it was the first time I actually thought about it.  Zaedrin said, "I am so happy they were able to get their car started." (that made me smile)

Fast forward to last week, Zaedrin went to school early to join the FCA.  The Fellowship of Christian Athletes focuses on serving local communities by equipping, empowering and encouraging people to make a difference for Christ.  I've wanted him to join for some time now but decided not to say anything, because I didn't think he would be interested.  He came home last week saying that he would be joining.  I was shocked and happy to hear of it.  When he attended the first meeting, Zaedrin told us about the Minister who came to speak with them.  In that meeting he showed the kids a video. (see below) 

This video reminded me of the lady in the parking lot and of the homeless people we pass throughout or day. He told me how much he loved the video. How much he wants to change lives, even if a lot of people never notices it.  I said to him, “Now that’s the love of Christ, Zaedrin”

For so long, I've feared that Zaedrin wouldn't understand what it means to be a Christian.  To love like Christ. To give like Christ.  To try his best to do good and change the bad.  Although he's just one person, he can see and witness what one kind act can do to save or help someone else see the light of God. And if I continue to allow God to use me, I know that Zaedrin will be there to witness it.   We will live our lives according to what we believe. We will not be “Christians” in name only!!

What example are you setting before your children? 

Spending Time With Zuri

Recently, Zuri came home from school saying he had a pretty bad day. I felt bad! As you know, most of my attention was pulled in one direction.  Zoe-Grace.  Sooo, Zuri then comes to me and says "Mommy, I need some time with you. Alone."  I figured he saw me snapping all these photos of Zoe-Grace... He never gets in on the deal. Not fare! 

So off we went to spend alone time.  

How important is alone time with your child? And how quickly are you available to give it to them? 

Monthly Motivation | January 2016

I'm super late (again), but wanted to submit this monthly motivational post for January.  Each month I will post my monthly goals for me and our family.  This is a fun thing for us to do and look back on in the future.  It also keeps me accountable with scheduling and such. 

Instead of committing to weekly wishes, I'm finding that trying to plan my monthly goals to be better for me.  

1. Clean Up.
It's time to remove the Christmas decor.  You know, this is the part I strongly dislike.  Last year, we waited until March to remove all the decor.  Hopefully, we'll be motivated to do it sooner than that this year.

2. Plan.
PLAN! PLAN! PLAN! I am not good at planning, but I'm great at over planning and under planning.  This month, my goal is to be consistent in planning... EVERYTHING!  Photography, my husband's schedule, bills, the kids, meals, meetings, etc. 

3. Write. 
Blogging has been a challenge.  I am not good at writing things down.  This month I want to practice writing more.  This month I plan to commit at least 5 hours a week to writing. 

4. Track.
Tracking my points and meals on Weight Watchers.  

5. Exercise.
Walking 10 miles a week.

There you have it folks! Making a commitment to stay committed. :) 
Check back with me next month to see how I managed these goals.  

How are you planning your days, weeks, or months?